What You Should Know About Sex with a Narcissist

Are you tired of the absence of love, affection, and passion in your relationship with a narcissist? It’s time to face the harsh reality — a narcissist is incapable and unwilling to offer emotional and physical intimacy to their partner. In their eyes, acts of love, affection, and sex are merely a currency to get what they desire.

The Dark Reality of Sex With a Narcissist

Narcissists enter relationships for the sole purpose of fulfilling their own needs and desires. They use their partner for social validation, boost their ego, and make their lives more comfortable. Narcissists are not concerned with their partner’s romantic or physical needs.

For narcissists, a sexual interaction is a burden, and they want to be done with it as quickly as possible. Sex with a narcissist is like having sex with a lifeless pillow, or worse, it’s like being violated. It’s a forced interaction lacking any pleasure or affection.

When does a narcissist have sex?

Physical intimacy with a narcissist typically happens for one of the following reasons:

1. Sex as a Manipulative Tactic:

Narcissists see sex and affection as tools to achieve their goals, only exhibiting these behaviors when they have a desired outcome. You’ll only see affection from a narcissist when they need something from you.

2. Sex as a Favor:

Another way to receive physical affection from a narcissist is to constantly plead and beg for it. Despite repeated requests for intimacy, they will only occasionally appease you, to shut you up. And even then, they will make you feel guilty, as if you have a sexual addiction or excessive lust.

The Reality

The truth is that a narcissist will never have sex with you out of desire for you. Any physical interaction with a narcissist will be devoid of emotion, passion, and sentiment. For a narcissist to desire you, without any hidden motive, they would need to admit that they need something from you — which goes against the very definition of narcissism.

The Solution

Remember that your needs and wants are just as important as your narcissistic partner’s. Unfortunately if you’re stuck in such a relationship, you have very few options.

The best option is to save yourself and exit the relationship, opening doors to new opportunities.

If you cannot leave the relationship, you need to do whatever it takes to survive. Educate yourself as much as possible about narcissists, boost your self-esteem, stop relying on them, and try to stay sane.

Conclusion

If you’re searching for love, affection, and passion in a relationship, you should not be with a narcissist. They’re simply not equipped to provide the emotional and physical intimacy normal people crave. If you are in such a situation, either accept it, or end the relationship.